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Growing Up And Apart


You’ll need coffee shops and sunsets and road trips. Airplanes and passports and new songs and old songs, but people more than anything else. You will need other people and you will need to be that other person to someone else, a living breathing screaming invitation to believe better things. Jamie Tworkowski

I don’t know about you, but I’ve often been told that sometimes things don’t work out because people grow up and grow apart. It could be a relationship with your parents, your partner or even your closest buddies. For me, it happened a lot with my closest friends.

I stuck with this thought for a long time in my life and whenever things didn’t work out, I just put it down to that – people grow up and apart. I never really bothered with trying to make things work. I know it makes me sound like a shitty person, but I’ll get better, promise – just keep reading.

The thought started becoming even more true for me when I began working – the long hours and the workload made me want to curl up in a ball and hide away on weekends while my friends wanted to ‘catch up’ or ‘hang out’. I just really wanted them to go away and understand that people grow up and apart! ‘Was no one getting this?!’

While being caught up in this, I kept thinking about one thing – ‘Should I bother mending what’s sort of broken? Should I even try, or just let these things go. People come and go anyway…’ I was still quite shitty.

So, when does the ‘less shitty’ part happen, you ask?

The day when I stumbled upon this article: When To Let Go And When To Try Harder on Thought Catalog. There was a portion that read:

“How do you know when the universe will work it out and how do you know when it’s time for you to start ironing out the kinks?

You don’t until you’ve tried.”

The thought in the article really struck me. I’ve never been one to try at a lot of things in my life, mostly because I never knew when to try and when to just let things go. Letting things go was always the easier choice, obviously.

But I guess I wanted to change that, and I know that I really needed to start trying to work things out, instead of just walking away from them whenever they got difficult.

So, here’s to my third quarter of the year resolution (because you CAN make those) – “trying until there is no other option.”

I guess sometimes things in life get difficult and walking away from them always seem like the most effortless thing to do, but I look at my friends who have always tried to be there for me, and I cannot be more grateful that they did! And I want to be the person who tries too.

So here’s to trying, and maybe learning that most things, and people, are really worth that shot.

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